You missed your son’s holiday program, because your mom fell in the shower.
You forgot to make cookies for your daughter’s school party, because you were busy making dinner for your aging parents.
It’s your turn to host the family holiday celebration, but you don’t have time to clean the house, wrap gifts or even shop for groceries – because you also have to do that for your mom and dad.
If this sounds like your life, you’re not alone.
“Caring for aging loved ones can be incredibly rewarding, but it can also be very challenging – especially during the holidays when people are usually very busy,” said said Austin Blilie, Chief Operating Officer at Tudor Oaks Home Care’s parent organization, ABHM. “When you’re taking care of someone else, it’s easy to forget about your own health and wellbeing. However, neglecting your own needs could lead to caregiver burnout – and that’s not good for anyone.”
To help manage holiday and caregiver stress Blilie suggests:
Accepting or asking for help. If help is offered, take it. If you have to ask family or friends for assistance, do it. Be prepared with a list of ways others can help, and let the helper choose what he or she would like to do.
Delegating. Make a list of daily tasks and, when possible, delegate. Maybe your spouse can cook dinner a couple of days a week or your children can take care of the laundry.
Taking breaks. Understand that it’s okay take breaks from caregiving. When someone else takes over, get out of the house. Visit friends, go to a movie, get a massage – anything that can help you relax.
Prioritizing self care. Eat well, exercise, relax and get enough sleep. If you’re not healthy, the quality of care you’re able to provide will suffer.
Getting connected. Take time to learn about caregiving resources in your community, including options for meal delivery, transportation and housekeeping.
Enlisting the help of a professional caregiver. Whether it’s for a few hours a day or a few days a week, a professional caregiver will ensure your aging loved one is getting the best care possible – while giving you a much needed break.
“At Tudor Oaks Home Care, we help families find the perfect balance between caring for their loved one and taking good care of themselves,” Blilie said. “From companionship to personal and dementia care, our trained, professional caregivers are committed to helping you meet the unique needs of your aging loved ones – while giving you peace of mind.”
To learn more about our customized care and respite plans, visit TudorOaksHomeCare.com